Women and "Bad Boys"

If you're smart, you would stay away because trying to get him to look your way and pay attention to you and only you will be harder than you think.

What is it about bad boys that make them so appealing?  Yes, we all say that we want someone nice who will treat us “right” and appreciate us for who we really are and yet we always fall for the “bad boy.”

I know that for many of us who ever have fallen for the “bad boy” and after getting our heart broken, we said to ourselves, “no more I will be smarter next time and that this is going to be the last time”.

But if you are like most women, we tend to prove to ourselves wrong time after time because the types of guys we choose to date become a routine.  We can’t help who we are attractive to or who we fall in love with.  It’s the chemical and chemistry that we can’t control.  Our body and heart totally has a mind of its own.  It feels whatever it wants to feel without any rationality at all.  Like I said when we fall in L.O.V.E.  we can’t think straight.  L.O.V.E. has to reason.

Well, what’s not to like?  Bad boy are usually very attractive, they take care of their body, exciting, confident, adventurous, live life to the fullest and mysterious.  The fact that other women also want them tends to make them even more appealing and challenging.

What’s also exciting and appealing about bad boys is the fun of the chase.  Chances are you will be chasing them, and to finally catch one make you feel like you win first prize.  Let’s face it, they don’t give a shit.  If you are not interested, they move on quickly to the next target.  Getting them to want you make you feel like you are the most wanted girl in the world.

Is that it though?  Or is it the fact that we think that they are diamonds in the rough, that we need to come to their rescue and make them a better person.  Perhaps, for most nice girls, who never live life on a wild side, living it through someone else is safer.  We like danger and crave that exciting but we are too afraid and the bad boy will satisfy our cravings.

Let’s talk about being diamond in the rough a little bit more.  I am sure some of us date “bad boy” because we feel that there is more to them than what meet the eyes.  Perhaps we think that they been misunderstood, that they can change them into a better man.  Again women, we tend to think that we can change a man when knowing fully that they don’t want to be change.  But we will never stop trying.  It’s not our fault we can’t fight what is in our nature.

So after knowing that they will eventually break our heart, why can’t we stay away from “bad boys”? They attract us like magnets; they keep pulling us in when we want to get away.  Or do we actually want to get away?  You know what they say “misery love trouble”.  We say we don’t want it but maybe we do.  Because if we don’t, I am sure there would be less bad boys in the world.  

If women are no longer attractive to “bad boy” and stopped wanting to be with one.  I am sure the “bad boys” will stopped being “bad boys” and actually become “nice guys”.

As long as women want “bad boys”, they will continue to exist, like it or not life is more exciting being with a “bad boy”.  It’s true when they say “opposite attract.”