So what is “friends with benefits?” It’s when you get to have sex with a friend or friends with no strings attached. You have that someone in your life without the complication of dating or being in relationship. Let’s face it, relationship require hard work. Some of us just don’t have time to deal with the bull-shit. The idea of “friends with benefits” is great and maybe we can have it all in life.
Everything is easier said than done and it’s definitely not for everybody. You do need to establish some rules and make sure that the other person involve in this is actually in the same boat as you. For example, the other person is not in it expecting you to fall in love with him or her or hoping that it might turn into a relationship. Another word makes sure there is no hidden agenda, other than sex.
Finding a person to be your “friends with benefits” might also be hard. Everyone have their own moral ethic and not everyone will want to do it. There are people who would just rather have sex with someone that they love and care about. Meaningless sex is not for everyone.
Short term, “friends with benefits” do work but as far as long term go, it will never last. Along the way someone will always get hurt. So if you start to developed feeling for the other person, you either have to end it or see where it would lead. This is where it will hurt because one person might not feel the same way. So, it does get complicated after all. Spend enough time with someone, you might confuse lust and love all together.
The time line for this kind of relationship should be about 1-3 months but it’s also depends how often you see that other person as well. Any longer than 3 months we are heading for disaster, one way or the other either you or the other person will develop feeling or attachment to the other person.
In short, I say “friends with benefits” doesn’t work at least not for me. However, many relationship do developed from casual sex or “friends with benefits”
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