Is there such a thing as the one?

 “The one” is a big word when it comes to “LOVE “and relationship.   Is there only just one person for each of us and is there such thing as the one or do we just settled when we are ready?

The world has about 7 billion people, narrowing it down to just one; “the one” would be hard.  How do we go about finding “the one?” 

There are no scientific researches that have proven that it actually exists.  Since it’s has never been proven, does that mean we’re wrong to belief in it?

Perhaps we like the idea of “the one” so much that we used it as an excused when asked, “Why are you still single?” It’s simply just easier to say, “I have not found the one yet,” than having to come up with another answer.

If the one does exist, then how come 1 in every 4 married ended up in divorce?  With this being said does this mean “the one” only exist when the timing is right?  You know that time for the next big chapter in life, to settled down and start a family.   “The one” right now would eventually become “The one” because the timing is right.

Here is a scenario about timing and finding “The one”.   

A women was ready to settle down and start a family, and have been on and off with her fiancé for the past 10 years.  They were engaged for the last 2 years of their relationship.  She thought he was “The one”.  The wedding date has been set and invitation was sent out.  Couple of months before the big day, her fiancé went out to a party and met someone else, who he felt an instant connection with.  He barely knows this woman but for some reason after meeting her, he felt that she was “The one”.  Such strong connection with this other woman whom he just met and barely knows, make him give up 10 years relationship with someone. 

 

She was devastated and depressed.  She didn’t understand what just happened.  “I thought he was “The one”, she said.  So because she was ready to settle down and have kids, she constantly was out looking for someone, anyone to be “The one”.  After unsuccessfully dating a few guys, all of which told her she was too clingy, moving too fast and too desperate.  She starts dating a guy who no one thought she would ever go out with.  None of her friends and family was approved of him and at first she even denied that she was dating him. Two years later, they are married with kid.

What do you think?  Do you think he is “the one” or is he simply just “the one” right now because she was ready to settle down and he was “the one”, who is willing to give that to her?